#1 GADGETS TO SILENT KID
Sometimes when I’m too tired the easiest way to ‘run away’ from dealing with kid’s tantrum/problems is to hook them up with gadgets. I’ll be the first one to admit but deep inside I know it is not the right thing to do. Now I realize my son is addicted to smartphones. How did I know? Simple, I confiscated his gadgets. He went from 0 to 100 real quick after not getting what he wanted and he also seems moody and not enjoying his day even with all these new toys I bought for him. He cried all day wanting to play his favorite game PUBG. I was determined to not bow down to his wishes even at times I felt pity. Alhamdullilah, after being strict for a month and changing his routine with activities he seems okay now even without phone. My advice is, don’t let gadget be the main source of happiness for your kid.
#2 TOO STRICT
I want ice-cream and sweets, NO!
I want to play, NO!
7A 1B’ in exam, WHY DONT U WORK HARD ENOUGH?!
Why don’t you take into consideration that kids have feelings too? Just because they are young doesn’t mean you shouldn’t show respect towards them. Raising your voice and being too strict would only make things worse. You demoralize them, you kill their self-esteem, they tend to be secretive because they know their opinion/problem doesn’t matter to you and this will lead to inferiority complex. You can be strict, but not all the time. If your doing so please stop because you are harboring fear. Kids are like sponge ready to soak everything you show and teach. Don’t regret if the give you the same treatment when you grow old.
Have a read on Islamic ways of parenting :
https://withaspin.com/2019/12/22/principles-of-islamic-parenting/
#3 YOU DONT LISTEN ENOUGH
If you don’t listen to small stuff their telling what makes you think they would tell you bigger issues (depression, bullying, etc.) When you ignore and not giving them any importance it would only make them feel distant. When your child feels distant you will lose control over them and this would be big issue in the future. When you don’t listen to them, they might think that it’s fine to not listen to others. Try to listen to them and comfort them with hugs when they have problems. There’s a reason why god gives us two ears and one mouth. Talk less, listen more.